I listen and I ponder — and often times I will ask, “What would it be like if you let go of all the old family history of resentments? How would you feel? Would you feel lighter? What would happen to the energy every time you get together with relatives? Would there possibly be some room for laughter, deep listening, and enjoyment of each other?"
Sometimes it is very difficult to let go of old ideas that no longer serve us. Family grievances seem to stick like glue.
Some of us have trouble letting go of the need to be right. We feel very justified in our judgements of situations that happened long ago-or even yesterday.
Forgiveness is the most freeing, dearest process anyone can give to another or oneself. Forgiveness is pure love.
Surrendering the need to be right is huge. Getting quiet and listening to your inner knowing is the first step to being able to let go of an old pattern of making someone else wrong.
Even if there was hurt involved in the actions of another, there is room to forgive.
Some people take their upsets and anger to the grave. Perhaps all that angst and hatred is what sent them there in the first place.
My suggestion is to look within, ask oneself, “How much better would I feel if I let go of all of this and forgave myself and everyone else involved?”
I propose that if you look deeply enough, and listen to your heart’s longing, the answer will come.
I invite you to try it on if you are holding family problems in your heart.
Forgiveness is definitely divine medicine for the soul!